Pawsitively Secure: Unwrapping the Gift of Comfort and Peace

The twinkling lights, the smell of winter greenery, and the packages tied up with bows — these are all aspects of the holiday season that create a tapestry of joy. The delight of both giving and receiving this time of year ignites a sense of generosity and gratitude, but let’s not forget that part of our bonded family includes our beloved dogs, too! I have years of photos of my dogs unwrapping presents of treats and toys and beds and new collars. These are all wonderful gifts to bestow to our furry friends, but I want to tell you there is a greater gift for your dog: the gift of comfort and peace.

For dogs suffering with separation anxiety, alone time can be a truly terrifying experience, inspiring panic, and tremendous distress. It may not be rational to us that our dogs are riddled with this fear, but it is very real to them. 

So why do I say this is a gift of comfort and peace? Peace plays a pivotal role in fostering the feeling of safety, creating a harmonious environment that allows individual beings to thrive emotionally and physically. In a state of comfort, one experiences a reduced level of stress and anxiety, providing a psychological sanctuary that reinforces a sense of security. Moreover, peace and comfort cultivate trust and a sense of predictability, which are key components of feeling safe.

As the holidays approach, and you think about the perfect gift to give your cherished pup, I hope you’ll consider helping them to feel safe during alone time. What a tremendous gift that would be.

The process by which we can help our dogs with separation anxiety is a simple one, but it’s not always easy. It takes time, dedication, compassion, and empathy, but oh my, your lucky dog will appreciate every aspect of your gift of pure love.

The simplicity of the training lies in the fact that we are basically exposing them to tiny increments of alone time and, over time, increasing that time gradually and systematically. The nuanced aspect of the training is that every dog is a unique individual, and there will be adjustments to be made for the one dog in front of you to help them be successful.

I have written many blogs and two books on this topic, and I encourage you to peruse these resources to positively assist your dog in their training and behavior modification journey.

You’ll want to become versed in how to vary criteria, how to conduct regular training sessions (we call them Missions), and how to weave in departure cues. You’ll want to learn about your individual dog’s needs, so you can support them in the process of unlearning their fear.

If you are ready to give your dog this ever-so-special gift, I suggest you start by checking out one of my recent blogs that will point you toward some key resources. This particular gift may be meshed in effort and time instead of wrapped in a silk bow, but both you and your dog will benefit from it for a lifetime. Additionally, please know that we are here for you, and you are not alone. If you’d like personalized training help from a skilled Certified Separation Anxiety Trainer (CSAT), just reach out to us through our website form.

It’s time to enjoy the tinsel, the tree, the menorah, the candles, the festive ceremonies, or the caroling. It’s also time to teach your dog — and yourself — that alone time can be safe, comfortable, and peaceful. 

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About Malena DeMartini

Malena DeMartini is renowned in the dog training industry for her work with separation anxiety over the past two decades. She is the author of two groundbreaking books on the topic, and the founder of the Separation Anxiety Certification program. More information about Malena and resources about separation anxiety can be found on her website at:

About Malena

Malena DeMartini is renowned in the dog training industry for her work with separation anxiety over the past two 

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